Out with the old....

Today I spoke with AL about various topics, one was the situation of her maybe getting a roommate to help ease the burden of her lease. It's hard when first beginning your adult life, making your first home purchase, digging out of consumer debt and assuming more mature debts like a mortgage and a car loan. I have yet to experience that pain, and in fact have lead a sheltered environment where my parents have made it extremely easy for me to not be fiscally responsible. For instance, right now I do not pay rent to my parents, yet I live in a house that they own. I still find it difficult to put more than $1g in the bank per month due to bad spending habits, over extension of consumer debt, unplanned expenses, dates, etc.

She also ran by the idea of selling her old engagement ring from her first marriage. That made me balk a bit... why would she want to dump something that is commemorative of a significant occurrence in her life? I infact still have my wedding ring, albeit is much cheaper than an engagement ring since it is just a titanium band. She feels that if she sold her ring, she'd be able to get around $2,000 for it... it would give her a cushion for a few months while she found a quality roommate to help defray costs.

Yesterday she also ran by me the idea of borrowing money from her parents for a bit. I personally like that idea a bit better, most likely because I'm a sentimental type. I find it hard to let go of momentos of past relationships. From love letters, stuffed animals, pictures... even to the sex video I made with an ex from college. Perhaps I'm the one who needs to learn how to move on from the past, look onto the future. Why keep my titanium wedding ring from my past failed marriage? Not like I'll ever wear it again... but still. Memories and all that.

AL's statement about selling her ring was this: "I guess I am finally ready to get rid of it all. I was close to being ready, and now I am ready, now that I met you." To which I replied: "Again, it's your decision." I can't tell her to get rid of it, I wasn't involved. I can't tell her to keep it... maybe she truly wants to flush that portion of her life away.

Out with the old... in with the new.