It's time to sever ties...

So I'm finally opening up about my relationship with AL to the others I used to date. LF had the audacity to message AL through myspace asking her if she was dating me, asking if anything happened to me, etc. WTF.

What a stalker. I really hope that AL didn't respond, she said that she hadn't, but was concerned because it was apparant to her that I hadn't yet severed ties with the other girls I used to be dating. She's exactly right, I hadn't been direct with the others up to that point. But I also hadn't encouraged any contact with them. In fact, I've been ignoring them as a whole. Not really a good way to approach (or not approach) a breakup. Shows that I still have work to do to be able to come to closure on relationships and get over previous occurances in my life.

It riled me that LF would over step boundaries of sorts and reach out to AL to check on me and probe the situation between us. It's really none of her business. Using the facade of checking on my wellness to broach contact with a woman whom she suspected I was dating. Well, LF was right, I am dating AL. I spoke to AL about that situation, that I had not in fact given LF the news that I was dating AL now exclusively. Understandably this upset AL. That was the catalyst that got me to finally start acknowledging publicly to the others that I was now with AL and not them.

I responded back to LF and let her know how it was. How I was sorry I wasn't up front with her about me dating AL now, said that I could stay friends with LF, yadda yadda. She responded back that she was dating someone else too (what.. trying to get me jealous?), asking why I stopped talking to her, that AL and I have a lot in common since she's divorced too, stating that she thought I didn't want to date anyone. Funny... really shallow statements once I took a step back and looked at what she was saying. I must have a lot in common with AL because she's divorced too.

Not really... Of course the divorce is a commonality between us, but it's really shallow that "we have a lot in common" due to it. No... there's more things that AL and I click on. A lot of things that LF isn't deep enough to comprehend. But do I need to go over the similarities between AL and me? It's none of LF's business. So I told her that there are other common things between us besides that. I told LF that the fact she started dating someone else was the reason why I "dropped off the face of the planet". Which is a scape goat... But an easy enough excuse to give. I told her that I hope that the new guy she's dating stays good to her (which I do.. I don't like wishing ill will on anyone).

She responded again letting me know that she really did like me, that she wasn't sure it would work out with the new guy. Then she made the statement: "I wouldnt count it out definitely for the future but i think its better this way anyways for right now." What does she mean by 'right now'? It better not mean that she's going to be sticking around... I don't need that. AL and I don't need that. Then she let me know that she was actually in Buffalo, NY due to her mom being in the hospital with complications from cancer. More things that I listened to LF on and spoke with her about... probably more things that other guys she interacts with can't comprehend or deal with... Life sucks at times... I really feel sympathetic for her, but I can't lend her the support she needs.... it's really too bad.

Along those same lines, I updated my public profiles to indicate that I'm "In a relationship". We'll see what ripples that causes... SR hasn't spoken to me yet.

Life goes on.