On the Precipice...

While I've been lamenting my relationship situations, my father is reaching a much more crucial point in his.

My father has been divorced before, as have I, although his was a lot more complicated than mine. My father was the first west of the Rocky Mountains to win sole custody of his children in a divorce. At that time it was ground breaking that he was able to do it, albeit was for the better. He eventually remarried my step-mother, and they have been married for over 25 years.

As any relationship, it has had its ups and downs. However for the past 10-12 years it has been on a downward spiral. My step-mother has developed into a truly self-centered, selfish person who has mistreated not only my father, but the rest of her family in an emotionally abusive manner. Thankfully I have grown up and left the situation to be on my own, however my father is stuck in the midst of it.

A lot has happened in their relationship that has lead to this point, a culmination of feelings, situations and decisions that has resulted in my father to deliver a written ultimatum to my mother this week. Either decide to truly fix their relationship, or they are getting a divorce. No more oscillating between half-hearted attempts to fix their relationship and mis-treating not only my father, but the rest of our family.

Time will tell, hopefully sooner rather than later, that my father's situation will be finalized with a divorce or my mother will truly begin to treat my father as he deserves to be. In any direction it goes, I'll be fully supportive.