It stings just a bit....

The writing was on the wall... literally. Like on the Facebook wall.

My ex-wife and I have an amicable relationship. We still get along fine, we're not mean to each other, in fact we both stay concerned about the on goings in each others lives. She let me know recently how one of her sisters was married, about her mom's health and how she's retiring early. Her dad is holding on, hasn't died yet from his emphysema, how her nieces and nephew are growing up, etc. In her emails to me however, she doesn't shed much insight into her personal life. I can understand though, letting an ex-husband know that she's moving on and has found someone new can be a touchy subject. She doesn't want to hurt me, but she herself needs to keep moving on in life. It happens, I know.

Just as I suspected, she is involved with a new guy. Checking her profile on Facebook this morning (she changed her profile picture and I wanted to see some of the other pictures of South Korea. She moved there after our divorce.) I could see her relationship status had changed. "In a relationship with..." It made my heart twinge. Like the finality of it all has come to us. She's actually developed enough feelings for another person to consider herself in a relationship. What hurts even more is that his profile is also on Facebook. Great, I get to see his mug with her in pictures now as well.

The interesting fact is that he's about the polar opposite of me. He's artistic, plays the guitar, lives out of his van, loves to travel around without much of a plan. I'm the type to plan out the next few years of my life, at least occupationally and environmentally. I hold down a technical job, work with computers in an office setting. I have deadlines to meet, projects to run, large clients to handle. I'm the type where I'd rather go play a soccer game then take an unplanned trip in a bus that can break down out to someplace god knows where. I do like travelling though. I just like hotels, reservations, agendas... Relationships though, that's obviously another story. To boot, at least in my opinion, he's not as handsome as I am. I'm sure that I am a bit biased though. It makes sense for her to be with him though. She's always been the type to run away from situations, to not feel tied down, to not be relied upon. Everything that a care-free artist embodies.

It still hurts ....

But then again, look at the situations that I'm in. I am sure it wouldn't make her feel too well either. Speaking of which, AL let me know she was going to be in town tonight for something, she remembered that I had a game and asked when and where I was going to be playing so she could come watch. Unlike SR and LF, I felt fine letting AL know where I was going to be tonight... Times change, life goes on.