How to be a Gentleman...

So in my ever pursuit to find the right person to spend my time with, it seems that I tend to also attract girls that I would never, never date.

My curse tends to be that I can be a nice guy, I don't mind attention, so I don't put them off. Rather I just avoid direct responses to their inquiries or requests to go out. Is this being a gentleman? Should I acknowledge their requests and be blunt about it?

Recently this has happened to me with a girl that plays on one of my co-ed indoor soccer teams. She's been pretty persistent, but I've just been selective in my responses to her, avoiding the questions and requests to go out. I'm not sure if it's working though...

I hate hurting feelings, especially someone else's, let alone my own. I know that when I get turned down, it hurts the ego for sure, but is it better in the long run?

To her, I guess I'm approachable. I make conversation with her, share a common interest, etc.. But yeah... she needs some work done. The girl's been hit a few times with the ugly mack truck.

Latest she's asked for is my personal IM and a picture of me... (Scary... that's like stalker fodder)... instead I directed her to my social networking website of choice.

We'll see where she goes with that. Maybe seeing the other girls associated with me will put her off, especially since a few I am friends with and have "talked" with before are models. Maybe that will show her in a passive way that I'm a bit out of her league, not to be egotistical. Reality hurts.